~Friendship~

For each star in the sky, it is said that there is another twin star shining somewhere in the space.

                 

Well, I believe that the macrocosmos, The Galaxy, is a mirror view of the microcosmos we live in, the Earth itself.

Starting from this analogy, I think each person in this world is a shining star, having a twin star somewhere on Earth. The coming together of these stars is what I call, Friendship!

So, what exactly constitutes a friendship?

I shall not try to define what everyone has found difficult…but I just want to share how I have experienced and perceived friendships up until now. To start with, there is no such thing as the Ideal Friendship! Not because an ideal friend doesn’t exist, but just because there are no specific characteristics that follow it…it doesn’t necessarily have to be someone you have known for years, someone who has been there for you always, or someone that you have just clicked/bonded with! Its all and none of all these, and thats only because friendships are different, unique and equally valued, cherished and useful.

Having set specific rules to a friendship, the one I call “Friend’s To Do list For Me!”, makes it quite difficult to us to learn the real value of our already made friends, and puts into question our ability to make new ones in the future…if you are already up to having those rules set, don’t forget that the most important RULE in that set of rules has to be: Don’t expect from a friend to do for you what you would do for him/her…and never ever judge through the loop of your own values!

Going back to the different types of friendships existing,and some tips on how to deal with those, let me start with the worst one and finish with the best:

EXHAUSTED Friendship: the worst one ever…a friendship that just doesn’t really seem nor look like one anymore. A friendship that definitely needs some time, space and what else not to recover, if possible at all!

FORGETFUL Friendship: sometime a Friend might forget about you, your very existence, anything related to you…yet, that doesn’t mean that if s/he would meet up with you, he wouldn’t be the same friend you remember. Most probably he will [well, unless he was such a jerk to have deliberately forgotten you] be as loving and good as he was the last time you two got together!

PAINFUL Friendships: unfortunately, due to a lack of understanding and compassion, a friend might just hurt you with something s/he said/did, or maybe didn’t say/do! Friends are good, but they can be real JERKS sometimes…what you have to keep in mind in those situations is to keep your head cold, and soften your heart more than usually. Before losing a friend for a silly and stupid mistake they have made, try to turn on your FORGIVING option. Amazingly enough, people are indeed created with such an option installed, don’t let it get wasted!

LONG-DISTANCE Friendship: WHo said friends have to live together? [most probably noone:)] Quite few friendships tend to be distance friendships, and they do work…a bit more effort and care has to vested, but yet it can succeed as an idea…in practice has failed to me sometimes:(

RELAXING Friendship: A type of friendship that doesn’t need much talking nor doing…u could either do a lot, or nothing and still have the greatest time ever, just being close to each other and entering in the world of the two twin stars that form a new galaxy in themselves…

A-MUST-HAVE Friendship: one of the craziest types I must say. It involves the almost same frequency of craziness/hyper-activity/ stupidity/ fun/ black humor/ ideas on partying! One definitely needs a dose of such a friendship once in a while so that the high spirits keep existing around your aura:)

BEST Friendship: this is a type of friendship that can encompass one of the few aforementioned, some ONLY FOR A LIMITED AMOUNT OF TIME THOUGH, and one that is of an utmost need for the whole life of a person. A friendship that doesn’t care of give-and-take doctrine, doesn’t have boundaries of love sharing, doesn’t get outdated, doesn’t get washed out, doesn’t hurt or at least knows to forgive…one that exists for you and which both have to invest a lot to keep it living, and most importantly growing!

MAJA Friendship [deeply regretting for not having included it from the beginning] More than a unique type of friendship…so unique that it redefines the definition of uniqueness, or goes beyond its meaning. It’s a friendship that knows no boundaries, distances, or sets of values. Compared to normal Friendships, it doesnt reflect light but its a production spot for such! Uniquely enough, it is almost always accompanied by a long distance, constant and urgent needs of a dose of such friendship, tremendous amount of love, feeling of completeness, nostalgia for enjoying each other’s presence, and perfect understanding.

Whatever the type of friendship, a friend is someone that matters more than anything else…someone whom you should love, respect and know the value of, and of course try NOT TO TAKE FOR GRANTED!

Remember, a star shines more when another one helps it shine…to keep a friendship shining, both stars have to sacrifice some of their own lights!